After I wrote my blog post on feminism, I seemed to see references to it everywhere. Isn’t that how it always works?
A couple memorable expressions have stuck in my head as my Google surfing has taken me down some fun rabbit holes. The first I saw on a website designed to empower little girls. It read, “Be the hero in your own life story.”
Although I read that months ago, it keeps coming back to me. There have definitely been times in my life where I haven’t been the main character: I was at best a side kick, or at worst, a cameo.
I remember when I first started dancing, I hated Latin dancing because so much of it was dancing out of a closed dance position. I didn’t want to call attention to myself. I felt that in standard dancing, I could hide better because we were always dancing as a unit. I wanted the dancing to be all about him.
One day a light clicked on and I wanted to be seen and noticed. I wasn’t hiding behind Kurt any more and was ready to step up into being the main character. I wanted to be the center of attention. That was a big mental break through for me.
From then on, as we watched videos of the top dancers in the world, I was focused only on the movements of the women. Many times Kurt would ask what I thought about the men’s movements, and I would honestly answer that I hadn’t paid attention: They’re just waiting around for the star to come back, right?
Have all of you seen the GoldieBlox ad for their engineering toys for girls? Go ahead and watch it!
There is a line in there that makes my heart sing: We are all more than princess maids! I’m trying to remember what exactly I played with growing up – I know it wasn’t princess-y. Although I had Barbies, I wasn’t that big into playing with them more than dressing them up. I had legos, but other than making the floor a dangerous place to walk, I don’t remember doing too much with those either. There was my hula hoop! But wait, computer games: that’s the ticket! I remember having an old Atari and playing that forever, and my Commodore 64. That is where my childhood went! I wasn’t a very girly girl.
Were your childhood past times in line with gender stereotypes? or Are you the main character in your life story?