My dad doesn’t like creating gift lists. He actually would prefer to do just about anything else. In recent years he has dug in his heels.
“Dad, what do you want for Christmas?”
“I don’t need anything.”
“That’s not what I asked.”
“Give me cash.”
To me, giving an actual gift has meaning, whereas a gift card or cash (while convenient) leave something missing for me as the giver. I know it is supposed to be about the recipient and not me, but once it devolves to where $20 bills are exchanged, it really defeats the whole purpose.
A few years ago I called and asked my dad what he wanted for his birthday. You’d think I’d learn, but I can be stubborn, too. In many ways I am my father’s daughter.
“Come up and watch football with me.”
That was a gift request I would willingly fulfill. I was so glad I was persistent! I love giving experience gifts!
Ever since then I’ve gone up on the Sunday closest to his birthday to celebrate, bringing food and sometimes beer, and we’d watch the game together.
There have only been two years that I missed: the year that I had knee surgery only two weeks before, and then one year it was snowing and the roads were impassible.
For me, this tradition is great. I get to see my Dad and Barb and catch up, PLUS I get to watch football! So this is what I am going to be doing this Sunday. I already know what food I’m going to bring, and it looks like our team hasn’t been mathematically eliminated from the playoffs yet! It could be an exciting game!
Is your family into gift lists, or do you just wing it when selecting gifts? What non-holiday traditions do you enjoy most?